What we usually look for in bestselling fiction is a story line that captures our imagination, a generous smathering of mystery and intrigue, a range of human emotion as wide as it is deep, a healthy dose of  sex and violence that is far from ornamental or obligatory, insurmountable David-and-Goliath situations that test the physical and psychological fabric of the characters' strength and endurance, passion and romance that touches our souls so poignantly that we weep, "real" characters with whom we can identify (even when things get ugly), and a victorious resolution that shines the spotlight on the beauty of the human spirit.  This is the stuff that makes a novel hard to put down.

Battle for Grace has all that.  But it's not fiction; every word of it is true.  Ballerina Cynthia Toussaint and her partner, John Garrett, were show-biz kids, overflowing with talent and chutzpah, ready to take on the world and make it their oyster.  But an injury triggers the beginning of a most insidious, life-altering, excruciating disease and brings their dreams to a screeching halt.

I'm a voracious reader, but I don't recall too many books that have impacted or impressed me as deeply as Battle for Grace.  Toussaint takes us on a no-holds-barred journey through her descent into the hell of Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome, also known as Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy.  CRPS/RSD is often referred to as the "suicide disease," as many sufferers find taking their own lives to be their only relief from pain likened to being burned alive. Toussaint courageously reveals her suffering, the resulting isolation, and the psychological impact CRPS/RSD had on her and her caregivers. Yes, the journey gets quite ugly and rough. Toussaint falls victim to corruption in a health care system that undermines her psychological state and delays treatment until the disease progresses to the point of being incurable.  The turmoil and chaos that ensues more than tests the glue of her relationship with Garrett. Her soul-baring candor gives us a true picture of how this disease chews up lives and spits them out.

It is Toussaint's tenacious spirit and the deep love of her partner, Garrett, that allow them to rise from the ashes to become the unstoppable activists that they are today.  From raising awareness of the plight of women in pain and helping to bring an unscrupulous HMO to its knees, to the creation of their organisation, For Grace, their story is one of passionate commitment to making this world a better place. 

Each chapter of Battle for Grace includes Garrett's take of the circumstances and his personal experience. His voice adds an intimate perspective from his roles as both caregiver and life partner.  Through him we see how deeply our illnesses impact the lives of those who care for us, and it isn't very pretty.  But Garrett's deep devotion to Toussaint is soul-stirring and inspiring, a testimony to how true love can endure life's most heinous trials.

I highly recommend Battle for Grace to sufferers with CRPS/RSD, their caregivers...and everyone else in this world.  Not only does it help us to understand a condition that has been so vastly misunderstood, but it gives the reader a candid look into the lives of two remarkable, inspiring people.  Anyone, with chronic illness or not, will find something to feed their soul, because each and every one of us, in one way or another, is fighting our own battle for grace.  It's great to know that it's a battle that can be won.

You can learn more about Battle for Grace from Toussaint's website, www.forgrace.org, which also provides wonderful resources and support for women in pain, or and purchase the book from Amazon in paperback, or in e-book format for Kindle or other readers.

Upfront, I say to anyone who wants to bring up the argument against grouping CFS and ME together or even using this particular nomenclature - "Hold on to your horses." Elizabeth Turp resides in the same camp as I do.  We both consider the name Chronic Fatigue Syndrome to be misrepresentational of the severity of the illness, and as she points out, Myalgic Encephalomyalitis isn't a medically accurate term.  But as current research and most of the medical profession refer to this collection of symptoms as such, and often group them together, this book uses the terms simultaneously for lack of better, widely accepted terminology. Turp acknowledges the problem of identification, so don't brush off the importance of this book just because you reside in the activist camp that shuns anything labeled as such.

Giving this book to your caregivers and associates - family, friends, colleagues - can be a lifesaver, not only helping to increase your quality of life as a sufferer but that of those around you.  It is downright insane to expect people who have not experienced Chronic Fatigue Syndrome/ME to understand what you go through. I've had people comment on things I've written about chronic fatigue and when I've tried to explain how I felt. They said, "Yes, we all get downright tired, don't we?"  Uh-uh.  They don't have a clue.  How can they unless we have enough energy to give them a blow-by-blow account of what our day is like or give them an oral dissertation on the research we've read?  I doubt we'd hold their audience for that long, anyway.  If they don't understand, we can't expect them to be truly compassionate nor can we receive the assistance and support that we veritably need.  This book is our saving grace.

Turp is an integrative counsellor who works in NHS primary care and private practice in the UK.  She became ill with CFS/ME in 2005 (the same year as I), and lost her ability to work, walk, read and drive when her illness was at its worst.  She was able to use her knowledge and skills to explore what other CFS/ME sufferers experience, as there are many different manifestations and levels of severity of the symptoms. The resulting book, written specifically for friends and family of the sufferer, includes her own experiences and case studies of others, and most importantly, wonderfully descriptive word pictures of how CFS/ME can affect an individual, along with excellent advice on how others can be the support you need.  Chapters of the book assist the reader in understanding how having a friend or family member with CFS/ME will change their own life, what kind of support and caring the sufferer may require, how to help the individual cope with the illness, and practical advice on helping with the requirements of daily living.

A most difficult task for the CFS/ME sufferer is placing the responsibility of learning about the disease in the hands of others.  This is where you discover who your true friends are and the depth of their compassion. If you purchase the book to be passed around to those close to you, you can only hope that they will read it. Thankfully, for those who aren't big on reading or just don't have much time, or for those on the periphery of your care circle, the last chapter of this book summarizes the top ten tips on how you can be helped by others.

Turp's excellent book is easy to read, comprehensive, full of compassion and packed with practical advice.  I found it to be a treasure trove of knowledge, and if (or when) I become more severely fatigued again, I will definitely start passing it around to those who need the education.  I highly recommend that you buy at least one copy if you have CFS/ME, or if you are a caregiver for someone who does.  It will make the lives of both of you so much better.

This book is available at Amazon in both paperback and Kindle format.

If you have chronic illness, no doubt you have a list in your head of doctor visits that resulted in arguments, dismay, disappointment, misunderstandings, confusion, anger, frustration and/or tears.  You know what I'm talking about.  When I was going through a tragically difficult time of my life and experiencing nervousness, sleeplessness and pain, I gave my family practitioner information about Ehlers-Danlos, a connective tissue disorder. As I had been recently diagnosed with Fibromuscular Dysplasia (another connective tissue disorder), had hypermobility and pain in my joints, and learned of other FMD patients that had EDS, I thought she could give me some insight or send me to get tested to see if I did, indeed, have that disease.  My family practitioner, who never even heard of either disease, did not read my information nor pursue the matter, but instead, labeled me a hypochondriac.  She also labelled me in terms related to mental disorders.  This, after she had previously doped me up with anti-depressants and valium after recovering from a fourth heart attack, and my sleep doctor also had me on two sleeping pills because of insomnia.  I was a zombie.  A hurting zombie.  Her behavior towards me hurt even more and did not help my situation at all.  Didn't she have to take an oath - "Do no harm"?

Then last summer I injured my FMD-involved carotids by bending my neck too far back and spent a month spinning with the dizzies and falling down.  I went to my neurologist's office at a prestigious university research hospital and was sent home with the diagnosis of dehydration!  NOT!  

Thank God I now have a fantastic GP whom I trust totally and who is willing to research things he doesn't already know, and a team of specialists at Mass General who look after my FMD with great care and expertise. 

Finding the right doctor is like finding a good boyfriend.  You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your handsome prince!  How do you find a good doctor?  Or if you're stuck with one who has no bedside manner and won't listen to you, how do you make your relationship work?  What, and how, is that doctor thinking?

Dr. Jerome Groopman, M.D., has given us a glimpse of what goes on in the grey matter of a medical professional.  Besides revealing what makes a doctor good, he dares to uncover what makes a doctor not so good, why a doctor makes mistakes, or is difficult, arrogant or impatient.  How Doctors Think (2007, Mariner Books) is written so that, as patients, we can understand what makes our docs tick and how to get the best care possible.  It should be essential reading for medical students and physicians!

Dr. Groopman holds the Dina and Raphael Recanati Chair of Medicine at Harvard Medical School and is chief of experimental medicine at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston.  He is also a writer for The New Yorker and author of several books.  His exploration of how doctors think started while he was making rounds with medical students, noticing their reliance on statistics and evidence-based therapies, and their view of patient as "disease" rather than as a unique individual with a life and a purpose.  He wanted to determine why there was an absence of heart in the students' approach to medicine.

Through Groopman's many anecdotes and thoughtful examination of what makes doctors tick, the reader gains a better sense of the psychology of medical doctors and how to best approach and maintain a quality relationship with them.  The book also empowers the reader to recognize the shortcomings of a doctor, to communicate more clearly with the doctor and to help the doctor communicate more clearly with you. Ultimately, a unique partnership can be formed to support your best interest and best health.  Or, otherwise, you will be searching for a better fit for your medical care.

Your first clue as to how a doctor thinks, says Groopman, is how that doctor speaks and listens, paying attention to what is said, as well as the body language. He cites studies that conclude "...how a doctor asks questions and how he (or she) responds to... (a) patient's emotions are both key to what they term 'patient activation and engagement'". (p. 17)  

Communication is a two-way street, and how you present information, reveal yourself, and ask questions is also key in developing that partnership.  When you have many unexplained symptoms along with what has already been diagnosed, Groopman suggests an important question to ask is, "Is it possible I have more than one problem?"  Often we think it but don't verbalize it and leave the office frustrated.

I, unequivocally, recommend this book to all of you.  It's about relationship.  It's about being your own best advocate.  And most importantly, it's about getting the best medical care possible, whether for you or someone you care for. 

Thank you to Kari Ulrich from Midwest Women's Vascular Advocates for gifting me with this tremendously enriching book!  You can purchase How Doctors Think for Kindle, in paperback and hardcover, and as an audiobook on Amazon.

I have multiple invisible chronic illnesses.  I have lost friends and distanced acquaintances who are either tired of hearing about my health problems, if they dare ask how I'm doing, or they think I'm a fraud and a hypochondriac.  Or maybe I'm no fun anymore.  Either way, it frustrates me to no end when I feel that someone doesn't believe that I'm not well.  You know the score.  I don't necessarily mind if they say that I look good.  I'm vain enough to be grateful for one less thing in my life to rue.

Meet Sherri Connell, a beautiful and accomplished woman: former model, performer, equestrian, educated with multiple degrees.  In 1991, because of Multiple Sclerosis and Lyme Disease, her active life came crashing down.  Aware of her struggles in dealing with friends, family and others who exhibited little understanding of her situation, her husband, Wayne, created The Invisible Disabilities Association (www.invisibledisabilities.org).  Together they wrote this 56-page booklet to help encourage and create understanding for those who just don't get it that we really are sick and sometimes need to be handled with kid gloves.

As insensitive as the behavior of those "non-believers" can seem, while reading this booklet I became aware of how difficult it is for them to deal with US.  They always seem to say the wrong thing.  We frustrate them because we seem okay on the outside; how can they tell when we're not?  Why aren't we the same people we used to be?  They feel like they've lost the person they once knew.  (Yeah, we feel that way, too!)  

Wayne and Sherri take the time to explain what chronic conditions are, why we may not LOOK sick, addressing the fear that we've given up, what to say, what not to say, and how to be a comfort to someone who is chronically ill or in pain.  "But You Look Good" is a great gift to close friends, family members, and others who want to understand your situation better and do what they can to maintain a strong, supportive relationship with you.  

But what about all those other folks you encounter on a daily basis:  acquaintances who brush aside and minimize your struggles, become impatient with you, insult you, give you unwanted advice?  People who don't really care about the relationship as much as what they need out of you.  You know who I'm talking about.  Even strangers who get huffy when they see you park in a disabled space and walk without a limp into the store.  These folks will not take the time to read a 56-page booklet so that they may learn compassion and skills in dealing with people like you!  Thankfully, The Invisible Disabilities Association also offers pamphlets on their website that you can purchase in bulk to hand out to those folks.

"But You Look Good" is a compassionate book, tenderly guiding our loved ones through a journey of understanding and growth.  It is self-published by the Invisible Disabilities Association and can be purchased on their website.  Because it is self-published, the booklet is not tightly written and, perceivably, could be better as a slightly shorter publication, making it easier for people to accept it and read it.  However, that aside, it is a valuable resource for loved ones of the chronically ill, fatigued, or pained to create understanding and make our lives that much easier and more pleasant.  

Buy a bundle of these booklets for your family and close friends, and packs of the brochures to hand out to the church ladies who keep asking you to bake cakes, to your grocery store clerk who packs groceries in a bag only Arnold can lift, or to those hotheads in the parking lots!  You are on a mission to educate the world about invisible illness, and the Connells have done the hard work for you!  

Despite MS, to Spite MS is a book about love.  It is a love story between two people who have MS.  It tells about a love for life, a love for fun, a love to help others, a deep love for each other.  And to read it is to fall in love with Dan and Jennifer Digmann.

Despite MS, to Spite MS: One couple facing the challenges of life and Multiple Sclerosis makes me laugh.  It makes me cry.  It makes me want to reach out and hug Dan and Jennifer, because reading it makes me feel like they are my best friends.

The book is that good.  The Digmanns are that great.

Written in essay form, actually more like journal entries, the book reveals Dan's and Jennifer's personal accounts and feelings about their battles with two different forms of MS, their relationship, their love of music and baseball, their efforts to raise awareness of Multiple Sclerosis and advocacy for others who suffer with MS.  Personal photographs are included, making your reading experience even more intimate.  The Digmanns open their lives to the reader on a level most don't.  There is pain, fear and disappointment in their experience.  Yet they bless their story with humor and candor.  It is a powerful story of living powerfully, despite MS and to spite it.

Yes, I fell in love with the Digmanns, and thank them for their beautiful, touching, enjoyable book.  All I want to do now is sit by these folks at a Red Sox game and eat hot dogs.

Despite MS, to Spite MS: One couple facing the challenges of life and Multiple Sclerosis (2011, Magee Press) is available through amazon.com and DespiteMStoSpiteMS.com.  A portion of the proceeds go to Camp Courageous and the National Multiple Sclerosis Society.  For more information about the Digmanns and their advocacy work, go to DanandJenniferDigmann.com.

Imagine, if you will, having the worse day ever with your elderly father, for whom you provide care.  He is in a foul mood and having temper tantrums over what you served for lunch, as well as what the President said in the news.  You just don't need this right now.  You have overdue bills to pay and a teenage son who was caught drinking last night.  You oh-so-much want to escape, but you're committed to your responsibilities.  How will you ever keep sane?

Think of The ABCs of Caregiving: Words to Inspire You by Nanette J. Davis, Ph.D. (House of Harmony Press, 2013) as a warm, comforting patchwork quilt to wrap around your tired body and shredded soul.  Each lovely patch on this quilt is a letter from the alphabet, representing words of wisdom and comfort for the caregiver.  For example, A is for Acceptance: accepting that you are only human; accepting that you've made sacrifices that rip your heart out, but with those sacrifices come profound gifts; accepting that you aren't able to be the person you used to be, but "you're more of the spiritual self you are meant to be."

If you are used to reading books with sequential chapters outlining processes that help you through a journey in life, toss that expectation out the window when you pick up this book.  The ABCs of Caregiving jumps between topics and "pearls of wisdom" according to the alphabet; it is not organized by topic.  So it may be a book better read by thumbing through it and finding the patches on the quilt that you need to ponder that day.  Topics include Burnout, Centering Prayer, Emotions, Forgiveness, Grief, Gratitude, Humor, Journaling, Mindfulness, Overcoming Obstacles, Stress-Reduction Strategies and so much more.

Davis wrote this book with gentleness and sensitivity.  Having been a caregiver for her husband for four years, she brings to this book the wisdom with which she was gifted through the experience.  She has been a facilitator for dementia patients as well as lecturing on end-of-life caregiving, writing numerous publications on the topic, and presenting workshops.  She is also the author of Caregiving Our Loved Ones: Stories and Strategies That Will Change Your Life.  Both books are available on Amazon.com.  You can learn more about Dr. Davis' work at http://www.abcsofcaregiving.com/.

The ABCs of Caregiving is not so much a book on how to take care of the person who requires caregiving, but more a source of comfort for the caregiver, a gift of Tender Loving Care for the frazzled.  When the caregiver is cared for, the quality of caregiving provided improves and the patient benefits.  I highly recommend this for every caregiver as a supplement to their caregiving instructional manuals and training, and as a gift for other caregivers you know.

Living Well with Chronic Illness: a Practical and Spiritual Guide by Richard Cheu 04/02/2013


Chapter 3 of Richard Cheu's new book, Living Well with Chronic Illness: a Practical and Spiritual Guide (2013, Dog Ear Publishing), begins with a quote by M. Scott Peck:  "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled.  For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." (The Road Less Traveled and Beyond: Spiritual Growth in an Age of Anxiety)

Reading that quote took me back a few weeks:  while sitting at physiotherapy, heat packs on shoulders, observing others stretch, lift, groan and grimace, it struck me that we were all people who, when  physically at our worst, were actually showing up at our best.  We were transformed when we decided to make a bad situation better; to make lemonade out of our lemon bodies.  The key word here is: decided.  For those who do not decide that they could, should or would get better, can't, shan't or won't.

​Cheu promotes the belief that illness can be utilized as a catharsis for deep personal transformation.  A caregiver for his wife who, for the past nine years, has suffered a progressive neurological disease, Cheu has used his knowledge and background in neurophysiology, pastoral counseling and ministry, stress management and patient care, as well as his obviously compassionate heart, to help his wife and others live as positively, abundantly and healthfully as possible.

Once one makes that decision for a better life, the starting place, according to Cheu's book, is ridding oneself of emotional baggage.  This is a gigantic hurdle, for most of us carry a truckload.  Fear of change and social isolation can also be stumbling blocks on a healing journey.  Cheu gives us tools to get past those blocks and begin to see our illness as more of an opportunity so we can say "YES!" to life.

Cheu emphasizes the reduction of stress, which is no easy task.  Chronic illness in itself generates incredible stress, going from one doctor to another until they become a blur, managing medications and their scary side effects, struggling to maintain a modicum of normal activity, and wrestling with a body that says "No" when you say "Go," just to name a few.  Cheu outlines simple strategies for lessening this stress.

He also explains the stages of grief through which the chronically ill must pass:  Shock, Anger, Resistance (denial), and Acceptance.   I'm sure these stages ring true with you as they did with me.  Thankfully, Cheu walks us through each stages toward an attitude of resilience.

Though highly practical in his approach, Cheu also is deeply spiritual in practice.  However, he does not preach, nor does he espouse, any particular spiritual belief, but instead purports to guide us in seeing the bigger picture and discovering the meaning and purpose of our lives.  He then offers encouraging words and step-by-step guidance in sharing our stories with each other.

The workbook pages allow you to acknowledge your fears and isolation, and guide you through planning towards taking action.  Cheu provides inspiring and enlightening personal stories of others struggling with illness.  Learning about how others have overcome their limitations, you don't feel so alone in your suffering and you see that there is hope.

I enjoyed reading this book, but most of all, appreciated Cheu's clarity in detailing the chronic experience and guiding the reader out of the emotional deep end towards a healthier, happier, more fulfilling life.  I could easily see how far I had come in accepting my illness (which is still a work in progress), feeling good about the, sometimes, tentative baby steps and, other times, giant leaps I've taken toward reinventing my self and my life.

The only criticism I have of Living Well with Chronic Illness, and it is a petty one, is Cheu's somewhat archaic terminology when suggesting media with which to tell our stories.  Digital audio recording and online photo albums were not included.  As I said, a very small criticism.

Living Well with Chronic Illness is an easy-to-read companion for anyone suffering from a chronic illness who is ready to make a challenged life better.  I thank Richard Cheu wholeheartedly for allowing me to read and review this hopeful, enlightening and enlivening book.  It did, indeed, make a difference in my chronic life!

                    

Life Disrupted: Getting Real About Chronic Illness in Your Twenties and Thirties 
​by  Laurie Edwards  
​3/19/2013
 
Thanks to guest blogger, Rihann for this book review! Her blog is found at (http://brainlesionandme.wordpress.com)

The first book chosen by our new ‘Spoonie Book Club’ features a subject close to our hearts and one which affects us all - chronic illness.  The book, Life Disrupted: Getting Real About Chronic Illness in Your Twenties and Thirties by Laurie Edwards, does what it says on the cover, it discusses the experience of what it is like to live with chronic illness during these years, as well as those other milestones which are often experienced in your twenties and thirties, such as finishing university, beginning on the career ladder, starting relationships and later, starting a family and so on. 

Laurie Edwards is certainly qualified to write this manual for those with chronic illnesses, as she herself battles multiple chronic illnesses.  Not only does she include her own story but also features several other case studies with others battling a variety of different conditions.  In my opinion, this makes the book even more relatable, as chronic illness encompasses a wide variety of different conditions, and by including more than one story, there is something from each individual that you can relate to your own experience.

Initially, I thought that the writing style seemed rushed and forced - as if the author was merely writing down her thoughts as they came to her - and often seemed more like a diary than a manual.  However, what if we were to look at it differently?  As patients, we often have to wait a long time for answers; to get a diagnosis, wait for appointments.  So, isn’t it refreshing for a book about chronic illness to get straight to the point; to be concise and compact?  Each chapter is short, making it very easy to read little chunks when the reader feels up to it.  Fantastic for those like me who tire very easily but still like to read before going to bed.

One problem, however, is much of the book focuses on the experience of hospitalisations.  A large number of chronic illnesses, like mine, do not create such crises that require frequent hospitalisations, and therefore, I would like more content that considers living with chronic illness away from the hospital. 

The author does, however, beautifully describe how “one of the only predictable things about chronic illness is its unpredictability”,  which, in my opinion, really encapsulates the experience of living with chronic illness, as often symptoms can occur with no warning and often a person cannot tell how they are going to feel day by day, or even hour by hour.  Leading to that, one section delves into socialising with friends with chronic illness, with the author using her own and others’ experiences to explain how chronic illness can lead to many cancelled plans and apologies for missed events.  This particularly resonated with me as, like the people in the book, I often need to cancel plans at short notice because of an exacerbation of symptoms. 

A major drawback of the book is the emphasis on the US healthcare system, as, obviously, there are major differences between the healthcare system of the US and the UK, although it is interesting to contrast the two systems.  The book discusses, for example, the huge financial implications of chronic illness, something, thankfully, those living in the UK do not have to worry about.  However, in contrast to this, the author discusses the relationships she had developed with her medical team, and the frequent contact which she has with them.  I concluded that the US healthcare system allows greater control and flexibility with their medical team which, unfortunately, does not reflect the experience within the NHS.  My experience of the UK healthcare system has been long waiting times to see even a General Practitioner, and having a really hard time contacting a doctor when symptoms have become very bad. 

To conclude, although the book does have some drawbacks that I have outlined here,  it is fairly well written, and as the chapters are concise and compact, it does not take a lot of time to read.  However, some of the book's chapters did seem underdeveloped.  It does encapsulate the experiences that many face whilst battling chronic illness, and many will think “Finally! Someone understands exactly what I go through every day.” 




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BEHIND THE OLD FACE: Aging in America and the Coming Elder Boom 

• by Angil Tarach-Ritchey
• 1/03/2013

​We are a caregiver (professional or otherwise), or we are someone who needs or will need a caregiver, or we are elderly or disabled and need to make decisions, or we are middle-aged and want to plan for our elder years, or we have an elderly person in our life.  EVERYONE falls into one of these categories, and everyone needs to read Behind the Old Face: Aging in America and the Coming Elder Boom (published by DreamSculpt Media, November 12, 2012), a groundbreaking book by Angil Tarach-Ritchey.  From challenges to the current system of care for the elderly to a vision of the future of elder care, from information on navigating the system to candid stories from the mouths of elders, Tarach-Ritchey covers the gamut of issues surrounding aging in America and what challenges lie in our future, especially if we are baby-boomers.

Tarach-Ritchey is a veritable fountain of knowledge, insight and skill in dealing with issues of the elderly.  With a background that began in nursing home care, culminating in the creation and management of her own home care agency, she brings over 30 years of experience to the reader in a vehicle of profound sensitivity and compassion.  She is the author of Quick Guide to Understanding Medicare, Medic-aid and other payer sources, available on Amazon Kindle, and  "The Aging Question; A Vision for the Coming Elder Boom", a M2 Ebook, as well as being featured on websites, in publications, and as a guest speaker on matters of the elderly.  She is founder of The Elder Boom™ Foundation, a "501C3 non-profit dedicated to educating families, professional caregivers and healthcare professionals to a new vision of senior living and care." 

I am both a caregiver for my father and a baby-boomer with numerous health issues who needs to think about my own care in the future.  I found this book easy to read and jam-packed with useful information and resources.  It was also a good smack in the head when it comes to our own perceptions of the elderly.  There is a story behind every old face, and sometimes we are in too much of a hurry, too distracted, too impatient to hear that story.  What a blessing to have Tarach-Ritchey open our eyes and give us her hand and guide us through the murky waters of aging!  How blessed are the aged to have an advocate like her to stand beside them!

​Note:  Angil Tarach-Ritchey passed away in 2015.  Her passion, knowledge, caring and humor is deeply missed by many, including me.